Because I am a divorce lawyer, I was asked to read and review a book entitled “How to Gracefully Exit a Relationship” by Frank Love. I reviewed the web site, http://franklove.net/, and agreed to read the book. To my surprise, I found the book gives great advise to people who are terminating a relationship or getting divorced and also to people starting relationships. I recommend this book to everybody who is in a relationship, wants a relationship, or wants to terminate a relationship.
Frank writes in easy to read language about his solution to
relationship problems. His solution is communication. I assume that
everybody understands that communication can improve relationships,
but Frank gives specific advice and examples. He acknowledges that a
break-up can occur in any relationship. So his advice is to discuss
this possibility early in the relationship. By discussing the
potential in advance, if a break-up occurs, the conflict should be
Frank also suggests that people discuss issues that are important
to the parties and their expectations of the relationship. Do the
parties expect that their partner will be monogamous? Are there
expectations that if not met will mean the end of the relationship?
Frank mentions that he has suffered through his share of break-ups
and has learned from the experience. He has learned that a broken
relationship doesn't mean failure. It can mean that the parties have
changed and are ready to move to the next phase of life. Once the
blame disappears, the parties can discuss the break-up calmly and
rationally. As he describes it, a break-up is not a rejection, it is
I recommend this book for everybody who is in a relationship or is
leaving a relationship. However, I think the people who can benefit
the most from this book are people who are just starting a
relationship. This book can help people have better relationships
and maybe make your current relationship last a lifetime.